DISC and the family

As your kids grow, you would begin to understand how important and influential it is to have a close relationship with them.

Every child is unique and has their individual tendencies. Being able to tailor your parenting techniques according to their behaviour preferences, particularly during times when all is not well, naturally helps you to strengthen the bond with your kids.

Although i’m no expert, what I have read online regarding DISC styles and teens, effective parenting kicks in when there is consistent predictable discipline and the right environment to motivate all kids within your family. According to youth psychologist, Dr. Mels Carbonell, “Motivation is creating the climate and environment that makes children decide for themselves to do ‘right’.”  The real insight for parents, is what motivates you may not necessary motivate them.

If you would like to work better with teens, especially, how about you use DISC assessment as a means of jointly understanding each other and both take the free test here. It will enable you to show your kids that you too, have behaviour preferences and you can share yours with them and vice versa. This could be a good opportunity to work through how best you could work together to crate a happy and productive homelife.

 

Understanding Your D style Child

Under pressure:
Becomes resistant, rebellious, strong-willed, angry, stubborn, demanding, controlling
Sources of irritation:
Weakness, losing, indecisiveness, laziness, lack of leadership, lack of discipline, lack of challenge
To motivate:
Give opportunity to lead, give choices

Understanding Your I style Child

Under pressure:
Becomes active, impatient, loud, attention-seeking, overly excited, “wants to please the crowd”
Sources of irritation:
Boredom, routine, being overlooked, criticism, time constraints, organisational demands
To motivate:
Recognise desired disorganisation, give opportunity to express thoughts, show displeasure of undesired behaviour, explain how undesired disorganisation can affect other people

Understanding Your S style Child

Under pressure:
Becomes submissive or stubborn depending on the threat to security, stability and friendship-seeking, seeks peace at all costs
Sources of Irritation:
Intimidation, inflexibility, turmoil, disloyalty, insincerity, pride, discrimination, unfairness
To motivate:
Establish close relationship, emphasise need for help, appreciate loyalty, give time to prepare and adjust, show heartfelt hurt from undesired behaviour, show silent disapproval rather than pointing out undesired behaviour

Understanding Your C style Child

Under pressure:
Becomes uptight, fault-finding, pessimistic, critical, worrisome, overly cautious, technical, picky, goes ‘by the book’
Sources of irritation:
Uncertainty, incompetence, disorganisation, simplicity, dishonesty, inaccuracy
To motivate:
Explain reasons for desired actions, ask questions, problem-solve on suggestions to improve, give opportunity to research and evaluate

Try out the tips and share with us how it has helped you to resolve issues in your daily life, and enabled you to become a better parent.

 

 

Unsure of your kids DISC style and don’t want to do the test… here’s a quick assessment of four situation and the different styles to assist you assess your children’s preferred styles

Doing the Dishes…

  • The D gives the orders, makes sure the work is getting done, and isn’t afraid to let you know if you’re not doing enough work.
  • The I is happy doing the work as long as they are working with others as well.  They’ll turn it into a social thing.
  • The S takes their time, soaks the dishes first and lets the soap do the work.  They’re okay with the boys crashing on the couch to enjoy the football.
  • The C will have a process for doing the dishes.  They will want the dishes washed a certain way, the dishwasher stacked in order, and the drying done to their standards.

Going to the Movies

  • The D will be very vocal as to which movies they are interested in.  If they are the only one in the group who doesn’t want to see that chick flick, they’ll let it be known.
  • The I‘s are the one’s who talk the group into seeing a movie.  They’ll be less picky about what the movie is as long as the company is good.
  • The S is there for the ride.  They’ll likely keep their movie choice to themselves and go along with the majority.  They’ll be flexible to meet the family’s needs for the location and time of the movie they are seeing.
  • The C will want to know all the details ahead of time.  When is the movie, what theater, how many tickets for adults, children, students, is it the cheapest, closest, best value?

Going Grocery Shopping

  • D‘s are notorious impulse shoppers.  They know what they like and just want to be in and out of the store.
  • The I will try to convince you to fill your cart with the things they want.  They’ll talk and talk as you go down the isles and may just end up boring or annoying you with unnecessary details.
  • The S brings a list with them.  They aren’t in a rush and will make sure the trip is done right to avoid accidentally missing anything.
  • The C will go store to store if it means a better deal for their needed items.  They’ll carry coupons and double check pricing as they shop.

Taking Family Road Trips

  • The D may speed when the road is light.  They don’t take many rest stops and are all about getting to the destination quickly.
  • The I keeps the conversation going after everyone else is falling asleep.  They’ll sing out loud to the radio, play games, and bring energy to the trip.
  • The S comes prepared for the trip.  They’ll have sandwiches packed, drinks in coolers, and plenty of entertainment the whole family can enjoy.  They’ll prefer a nice familiar route to their destination.
  • The C dissects the map for any shortcuts.  They’ll have certain ideas about how people should eat in the car.  They’ll want the trip to follow the route exactly.

Playing Board Games

  • The D will be very competitive.  If they lose too much, it can make them upset.  They won’t like waiting for people to take their turn.
  • The I might get distracted in conversations instead of the game if it doesn’t involve much talking.  They’ll like party games or games with lots of interaction.
  • The S will not like being rushed when taking their turn.  They prefer being on a team then having to make decisions on their own.
  • The C will analyze the rules ahead of time.  If someone does something remotely suspicious, they’ll be the first to highlight any cheating.

enjoy thinking about your kids… and partner